Nu Verbindend Communiceren (NVC)

Monday, January 2, 2006.

Containing:
1. 2006; 2. The book; 3. My link to this subject; 4. My idea; 5. International; 6. Motivation; 7. Imagine; 8. My wish.

Dear Mr. Rosenberg,

and all the ones involved: Gary Baron, Diana Young, Sol Crocker, Valentina Aslanyan, Angelique Turner, Chris Scott a.o,
cc: Justine Mol, Robert Kramps, Monique Kluijtmans, Inga Teekens,

1. 2006

First of all: a happy, healthy, inspiring, and refining New Year to you!

2. The book

Many thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts about communication! I feel happy when I experience more possibilities to communicate nurturing and voluntary from heart to heart.

3. My link to this subject

After 20 years of 'diving' in the meaning of words, after reading (the Dutch translation of) your book in June 2005, and after meeting and N-V-Communicating with Justine Mol (first in September 2005), I'd love to share with you the following idea… (see 6. Motivation).

4. My idea

Would it be wishful to use the abbreviation N.V.C. with new meaningful words that give the message and energy of your teachings, like Nurturing & Voluntary Communication (my favourite), or other combinations with Nourishing/ Noble/ Naturalistic/ New (-Age)/ Neutral (impartial, good or winning for All)/ Vocational (you feel drawn to do it or to make it your profession)/ Vitalising, etc?

Nurturing & Voluntary Communication is my favourite, for it shows that communicating in this way can be caring, caretaking, nourishing, upbringing, raising, and it is done willingly, it's your free will to do it, your choice.

5. International

In other languages, e.g. Dutch, one could act in a similar way: Nobele (Noble or Generous) & Vervullende (Fulfilling) Communicatie. Or: Navoelende (understanding the feelings of someone, including yourself)/ Natuurlijke (Natural)/ Natuurgetrouwe (true to nature)/ Naturalistische (Naturalistic, most accurate copy of reality)/ Nuttige (Useful or Profitable)/ Nieuwe (New)/ Nieuwetijdse (of the New Age)/ Neo… (New .)/ Noemenswaardige (Appreciable, worthy to mention)/ Neutrale (Neutral, good or winning for All)/ Verwonderende (causing amazement)/ Vrijwillige (Voluntary)/ Verzoenende (Reconciling)/ Vitaliserende (Vitalising)/ Voedende (Nurturing)/ Voedzame (Nourishing)/ Voordelige (useful, profitable)/ Voorbeeldige (worthy to follow this example), etc.

6. Motivation

The words 'Non' or 'No' or 'Not' and things like '-less' are gone in the energetic meaning of our communication. How you can experience the meaning of this item? You could draw the most simple happy face: a big circle, and in it two 'dots' for eyes and a 'crescent moon' for a smile, like this:

Now, if you would say to someone who is not able to read (yet): "I feel" and show the drawing to this person, the person would get your impression. You could ask what impression (s)he got by your message. Then you could repeat the whole thing after you wrote the word 'not' above the drawing.

If we understand this kind of 'energy' in communication, we can choose to use the word 'not' in a (refining energy or) uplifting way. E.g. if you don't feel happy, you could use the opposite word for 'happy' (and you can not keep up the energy) or say "not happy", which expresses what you feel and still keeps up the energy. In this way you can consciously try to keep the energies as fine as possible. If you would like to experience the difference between these energies, you could meditate some time on your 'smiling' drawing, and create a second similar drawing, but now the 'crescent moon' is up side down (as we can do to express the opposite meaning of 'happy').
As a singing teacher, I invite singing students to sing while looking one by one at the drawings… one can feel and hear the difference in energy. Often they are surprised about the amount of effect on their feelings and their sound.

This experience and experiment, with which most of you probably already are familiar, is my motivation for sending you this proposition and new idea. It is possible to write much more on this 'not' subject, and how to concentrate on the things that we DO like, dream of, wish or the things we ARE able to do. For now, this will do.

7. Imagine

NVC has become a worldwide notion, so probably it is wise to keep that abbreviation in tact. That still leaves many possibilities to give 'NVC' a more refined energy. Could you imagine the energy shift, if everyone familiar with NVC (now and in the future) suddenly would think, speak or write about NVC, e.g. Nurturing & Voluntary Communication, while keeping this meaning in mind (and/or heart) ?

8. My wish

I hope this will inspire you to (re)consider new possibilities.

Most sincerely,